Do we Reflect back?
So many thoughts keep coming back and forth and we consciously keep forcing ourselves for the ‘solutions’. Do we really take out time to reflect back to these thoughts. Do we understand that these thoughts are an indication there is some learning we need to take.
What we don’t realise is that it’s the subconscious mind who is running the show. My research says that we store all experiences in the form of feelings in our subconscious mind from the time we are in the womb of our mother till the age of 12 years.
Each one of us store these emotions differently.
When we grow, these emotions decide our actions and reactions to our environment. So if you are feeling anger, frustration, disappointment, discouraged, submissive etc. the current situation is only acting as a prop for these emotions to come out, the real reason is an event in your childhood which stored these emotions.
These emotions create a belief in our subconscious mind and becomes our pattern which runs our lives.
Do you sometimes feel or see that
- Clarity you are unable to reply back or
- Claritysaying more than you should or
- some unexplainable fear is gripping you or
- pleasing people
- feel like hiding in certain situations
- unable to speak for yourself
These are just a few examples of the patterns behind which is the belief stored.
A trained coach or healer or other professionals can assist you to get to the root of it and release it. It’s a process. Lot of churning at the subconscious level needs to happen before you start streaming in the real emotions stored due to a particular event which on the surface looks so normal.
Once we become aware of our beliefs and how it has created our pattern, we start to learn to change it first at the conscious level and gradually it settles in our subconscious mind.
If this article triggers any thought in your mind, I shall be happy to address that.
It is very important for us to practice forgiveness. When we choose to forgive, we are not condoning the act of others. We are choosing to be more peaceful and charitable in our thoughts. It is very important for us to take responsibility of our lives. Whatever is our current state in all areas of our life, is a direct reflection of our own conduct. I am not denying the fact that people cheat, scheme etc. I am only stating here is that we invite such people into our lives to take learning/s. When we take learning and make certain changes within ourselves, we either stop encountering such people or we distance ourselves from them before they can harm us or we know how to deal with them. In nutshell, they can’t harm us.
One exercise of forgiveness is to write the name of all those people you thing have wronged you and you need to forgive along with the incident where you felt cheated or hurt. On the second sheet, write down the learning/s you got from that incident/person. Please note that learnings are like peel of onion, you may get many learnings. Sometimes, the learnings of the same incident may pop up in your mind at a later time when you are not even consciously thinking about it. Once you have finished writing, burn the sheet where you have written about the incident/person and preserve the learning sheet.
Do let me know how did you felt after doing the above exercise.
Be Mindful of the words you speak and/or think
Thoughts are energies. Positive thoughts brings us positive energies and negative thoughts negative energies. These thoughts helps us raise or lower our vibrations. Our emotional state depends on the thoughts we think or the words we speak. We manifest things, people, experiences which matches our vibrations.
Have you heard yourself or someone else telling your/their stories and adding lots of negative adjectives to it for example I have ‘struggled’ a lot from this period to that period or that person is ‘fighting’ with critical illness etc.
Any illness as it is having its effect on our physical as well as emotional bodies. By giving it negative adjectives, we make it even more powerful. Louise Hay has beautifully defines how our thoughts are creating illnesses in our body. It happens because by repeating those negative thoughts, we are storing the associated negative energies which eventually becomes illness in our physical body.
Any illness or accident is a blessing in disguise. It’s an opportunity for us to look within and honestly figure out what thoughts / belief system we need to let go of. When we are narrating ‘our story’ with all the ‘feelings’, we are shaping our lives around those ‘feelings’ because we are not only narrating our stories, we are feeling those feelings in the present. Energetic cords are attached to that incident and that’s why we remain attached to those feelings and keep bringing more reasons to ‘struggle’ or ‘fight’ for life.
By simply accepting the situation and slowly releasing the associated thoughts, we start to heal our body and start to raise our vibrations. Gradually we not only improve our health, we start to manifest positive circumstances into our lives.
Please feel free to ask any further clarifications.
NLP Communication Model
The NLP Communication Model explains how we take information from the outside world into our neurology and how that in turn affects our thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
We constantly receive information through our five senses and processing it at an average rate of about 4 million bits of information per second. We absorb and understand this information unconsciously as our conscious mind has limited capacity to process all this information. Therefore, in order to distinguish and use the relevant information, our nervous system filters it.
We delete, distort and generalize information according to our unique filters. The incoming information passes through our filters and create thoughts which in turn create internal representations (or maps of reality). Internal representations take the form of sensory perceptions: a picture with sounds, emotional feelings, tastes and smells. Our internal representations instantaneously trigger corresponding states, which in turn motivate all our behaviors.
Our thoughts, feelings and behaviors stem from our unique filters. These filters vary from deeply unconscious processes to more conscious processes, namely:
Knowing about the various factors which affect human communication enables us to communicate with greater flexibility, while understanding other points of view better. Therefore we’re able to relate to people easily and respond to them on their terms. This builds rapport and allows for successful outcomes in leadership, mediation and negotiation. It also facilitates empathy and compassion in human interactions.
On the personal side, knowledge about the NLP Communication Model along with the application of NLP approaches enables people to ‘run their own minds’. More fulfillment in life is achievable when we are less affected by external circumstances, through gaining control of our internal processes. This leads to mental freedom, empowered responses, and mindful interactions with others.